As a teenage girl, I have had a lot of experience with communication from our male counterparts. The endless snaps and chats that are so perplexing never fail to make me laugh. Boys, how difficult is it to give me a call?

The environment of Snapchat is so toxic to our generation; the unspoken rules take a toll on everyone and their mental health alongside sanity. The amount of times I have half swiped a message on Snapchat is simply comical. The added feature of deleting messages or pictures has helped me on many occasions when speaking with the male species.

When meeting someone new on social media, I personally think it’s kind to start with the word “hello”. For those that are new to this kind of interaction or commonly use “what’s your snap” as a pickup line, you can use any variation of this word such as: hi, hey or even a casual what’s up. As a society, let’s normalize having a genuine conversation just like the good old days.

Once you have obtained my Snapchat username, searched me up, saw my super cute bitmoji and tapped the add button, I will get a notification and you don’t have to let me know with some other form of social media. Now, it would be the time to introduce yourself with your name and age, not the fact that you saw me at the football game and decided not to say hi. If you are on the football team and decide to lead with that, please give your name and number because it’s hard to keep track of the boys when there are so many more options.

Like I said, I probably won’t remember you; this is not an invitation to send me your highlight football plays because if you think that’s going to spark my memory then you’re delusional. No, I don’t want to play 20 questions or facetime you genuinely 30 seconds after I pressed add back. Please be kind and considerate and keep your hands and feet inside the vehicle at all times.

Now, once we do get to talking and you seem interested in getting to know me, keep in mind the language and punctuation you use. There’s nothing like some bad grammar or spelling to push the conversation along. When you’re trying to compliment me or get me to do something please use spell check and don’t spell opposed with an “a”.

The way to any girl’s heart is raw emotion, but not so raw that you send videos or pictures of you crying to a stranger. Sometimes ignorance is bliss, so don’t tell your feelings so much that it will make us cry for days with a tub of ice cream under the covers. This goes for anyone; think about what you say on social media.

Have you ever heard of this app on your phone where you type in numbers, it rings for a bit and a little voice answers on the other line? This is called a phone call and it’s really beneficial in healthy communication. If you really want to get yourself a girl, try a good old fashioned love letter.