The gist of the story is chivalry is dead. While yes it might sound a bit cliche, the trend of the nonchalant guy has only made the plague worse.

While over the years romance has slowly decreased with the age of cellphones, it wasn’t until recently that the majority of the Generation Z population has not only conformed to those around them regarding the matter but also joined in to the upcoming trend.

The “nonchalant” mania currently has 209.5 million posts on TikTok.

It begs the question: whatever happened to dinner and a movie? The truth is, the standards and expectations for a good guy are so low, they are practically buried 10 feet underground.

Although the norm used to be the classic dinner date, nowadays if this happened jaws would drop and people would start asking if the proposal was even real.

Could it possibly be that the reason Gen Z is like this is all because of the access to cellphones and technology? It makes me wonder if the saying “distance makes the heart grow fonder” is actually true.

I constantly ponder this idea since we are in such close proximity that we potentially just get over each other more easily. If anything I think it is rather upsetting. I had thought that part of the human experience was forming bonds and getting to know one another. But I guess not.

To be completely honest, when I heard about the nonchalant guy going around, I gagged. I despise the thought that it is now cool to act as if one does not care about other human beings and to hide all of their emotions. If anything, it disgusts me.

I think being nonchalant might be the biggest red flag there is.

In a world that is more sensitive than ever when it comes to emotion among other things, why do we have to push away and hide our genuinity as well as our desire for romantic or platonic relationships.

I think that that whole idea of the nonchalant guy is just silly. I want to know who is the leader and I want to talk to their mother.

Is it not odd that little girls all over the world are shown princess movie after princess movie of a knight or prince coming to her side to help fight her battles, emotional or physical. The male figures in these movies are always kind, always say the right thing and are just decent humans.

Now we all know that if the bar was set to the actions of these characters, there would be no relationships able to thrive in our world. And the truth is, no one is expecting any guy to be this perfect.

However, compared to every prince charming, the nonchalant guys of today seem like the villain.

Once you think about it, while the little girls were being shown all of their hopes and dreams coming true, all of the little boys who would later become insensitive men were being shown characters who took on the form of emotionless machines or characters in action shows that would rush into destruction. So in reality, what did anyone expect from them?

Sure there are some people out there who truly are kind and respectful but you have to prepare yourself because you are looking for a needle in a haystack.

So the moral of the story is to quite literally be yourself. No one will judge you for being genuine but everyone will judge you for being fake.

Some may say that being nonchalant is attractive due to the mystery factor. But there are no other factors to possibly appreciate after the fact.