Friendships evolve as time progresses

While I have experienced friendships changes, these girls have stayed constant in my life.
While I have experienced friendships changes, these girls have stayed constant in my life.
Teah Stephenson
Friendships can start in your youth and can continue for years or fizzle out.

Friendships are one of the most important aspects of life for a person. People have friends surrounding them from the moment they are born. Those can be their siblings or cousins when they are an infant, or maybe even an imaginary friend.

The friendships younger kids develop are fairly stable and can begin to influence where their life will take them. Once they grow up and hit either middle or high school, those bonds they had created may begin to fade or for some they may grow stronger. Friendships can last a lifetime, beginning as a child, going through the highs and lows of highschool and even making it to adulthood.

Friendships can start in your youth and can continue for years or fizzle out. (Lori Spindler )
Maeve Galvan poses with her close friends after the seniors win Powder Puff football. (Maeve Galvan)

Friendship means different things for different people, but a common consensus is that a friendship is a strong bond. A friend is someone that you are attached to by affection. Another big aspect of friendship is trust according to DGS Senior Maeve Galvan.

“I think friendship is really all about trust, it’s about a bond but it’s really just like interacting with each other and you are just there for each other. It’s kinda like you can tell your best friends anything or even a good friend, you feel like you can tell them anything,” Galvan said.

But ultimately the people you can even call your best friend may begin to feel like they are drifting further and further away. At one point they could even turn into a stranger. DGS Senior Ellery Johnson has had some very close friends in the past, but as they grow and change they may no longer call themselves friends.

“My friendships have really changed over the years. I had a lot of friends from elementary and middle school that I’m not friends with anymore and even friends like when I’m older that friendships don’t always last a long period of time, that would really hurt me because I didn’t really understand friendships that weren’t like lifelong. Like when I’m friends with someone I’m in it for the long run. Like til the day we die. I take it very seriously but like other people don’t and I didn’t realize that until I was older and I would be so hurt when I wasn’t friends with someone. Then I was like okay it’s normal to change friends and grow apart. You change, people change so friendships are bound to change,” Johnson said.

— Ellery Johnson

Kara Filice and her friends at the Homecoming football game.
Kara Filice and her friends at the Homecoming football game. (Kara Filice)

Many people see changes in their friendships during their teenage years. Those changes are likely due to changes in their environments – going into high school – and can also be caused due to personal changes. When teens are growing up their interests can shift and change which can cause breaks in friendships.

Changes in friendships affect everyone in different ways and some handle it better than others. It all depends on the person and the effect that friendship has had on them. Senior Kara Filice stayed with some of her friends for a while, but she also grew apart from some of them and had to navigate that.

“It’s sad because when you have been friends with the same person for all your life and then you just stop being friends with them it’s sad. I just think about all the good times, because there’s no bad blood between me and this person, I just think of the good times that we had, and you know I see them in the hallway and it’s good to think about the memories we had. We just grew apart. So I just think of the good memories, instead of the sad ones. I think we’re all growing and changing, I think as you grow you start to see who your real friends are. You grow and mature so as you’re changing your friends are going to change,” Filice said.

Again, friendship changes happen most during your teenage years, but it isn’t unheard of to have changes in friendships during adulthood. But some adults also share that they have had friends from their childhood seeing as the average length of a friendship is 17 years. Executive Administrative Assistant Ann Lichaj has been in contact with one of her closest friends for years.

“Right now my longest friendship is 40 years. I’ve known her for a long time, she stood up at my wedding. We just connected. With other friends I still talk to them but not as much with this one friend,” Lichaj said.

Even though some people stay friends with people their entire life, for others it isn’t a straight path. A person could lose a friend but they could also ultimately find their way back to one another.

Ellery Johnson and I pose at Senior Sunrise.

Even though some people stay friends with people their entire life, for others it isn’t a straight path. A person could lose a friend but they could also ultimately find their way back to one another.

“I have friends from kindergarten but It has not been straightforward. We have been best friends since day one of kindergarten. It’s Like we are very close and then we drift and then close again, so it’s like I’ve had friendships like that since kindergarten or friends where we were like pretty close and then just recently we are very close,” Johnson said.

For Johnson, she has seen changes in her friendships through the years– especially in middle school and high school. While for others their friendships have stayed steady and haven’t changed that much. Some teens find their core group in middle school or high school and stay with them for a while.

Ellery Johnson and I pose at Senior Sunrise. (Kaylie Mcdaniel)

“I’ve been basically with the same people, I guess we formed our little like ‘Core 4’ in like third grade and we have had like other people, it just kinda interchanges, but like with my group right now there are a lot of people that I have been friends with since like Pre-K and I’m still friends with today,” Galvan said.

Filice also has had a similar experience to Galvan. She has some close friends that have stuck with her for a while, but now she is getting to the point of entering college. In college friendships change even more, but some friendships can continue to stay strong even with college looming over your head.

I feel like now we are rekindling our friendship, just because I feel like our time is getting shorter just because college is coming. I feel like being a senior we really need to make the memories last as long as we can.

— Kara Filice

The people that I have been the closest with since seventh grade. (Ellery Johnson)

Even when friendships change, it can be a much needed period of personal growth. Letting people go can lead to bettering yourself as a person and can make you much happier as well as improving your quality of life. Letting them go can also allow you to focus on other things that matter to you.

“The most change happened when I started my family. I was more geared on paying attention to my children and things like that. So when I got married and started a family,” Lichaj said.

Many people go through changes in their friend groups or just friendships as a whole, and sometimes a person is able to reconnect with those friends. But even when that doesn’t happen it is okay to let them go. Friendships change, and people change.

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Caitlin Spindler, News Editor
Senior Caitlin Spindler is a first year News Editor for the DGS Blueprint. Spindler is an honor roll student and is also a member of the DGS/DGN lacrosse team and a club lacrosse program. Spindler took Journalistic Expression her junior year which continued to prove her love for journalism and further validated her plan to pursue a career in journalism after high school. During her time in Journalistic Expression, Spindler also freelanced articles for the Blueprint. Anything to do with writing has been something that has interested Spindler for as long as she can remember. When she isn’t writing, you will find Spindler spending time with the ones she’s the closest to. Spindler also spends a lot of time perfecting her lacrosse skills, working at Cadence Kitchen & Co. or volunteering at her church. She looks to further her journalism skills this year on the Blueprint.

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